Working after getting married probably one of the most debated questions in almost every household around the world. But if you consider to work after marriage, you must carefully weigh all of options and prepare yourself for inevitable challenges working mothers face every day.
1. Feeling Guilty
Working mothers walk around with massive guilt that they are not spending with their kids. This is a common sentiment among many women. Researchers across the world have found that the stress levels of working mothers is much higher as compared to those women who dedicate all their time to either parenting or working.
Ironically, many people still believe that a mom who gives up her own life by choosing to be a stay-at-home give a better future for her kids because that’s what motherhood should be like. But on the other side, many women don’t enjoy being a full-time mom. So if you had no other choice but to go back to work, don’t feel guilty and always remember that as long as you can ensure that your children are properly cared for, they will be fine.
2. Limited Mobility
There’s another challenge that working mothers face while choosing jobs. You have to narrow down your job search to either teaching jobs, working at home or fixed 9 to 6 jobs that require less of fieldwork and more of desk work. Working moms face slowed career mobility and don’t always see the same opportunities to advance their careers as their male counterparts do.
3. Ready to Deals With Failure
Before you choose to be a working mom, you need to believe in for yourself first. Almost every working moms will feels like a failure when they can’t live up to her own expectations and those of others, including family and colleagues. Most of working mothers tend to expect far too much of herself as do others and this is exhausting in the long run. Always remember that there are no failures, only lessons. Be the kind of mother you want to be without beating yourself up for not exemplifying the mother you think you should be.
4. Lack of Time for Personal Interests
Taking time out for ordinary “Me Time” activities is difficult for working mothers due to a lack of available free time. It may seem impossible but taking time to renew and recharge is a good investment that pays real returns. A rested, physically and emotionally healthy woman is a better mom who can accomplish more in the next few days or even weeks.
The survey found that children are more likely to be happy if they know their mother is happy. So, give yourself permission to slow down and relax for a few moments a day, or a few hours each week to help you gain a fresh outlook and a renewed sense of perspective.
5. The Super Woman
If you've chosen to be a working mom then the hardest part is living the choice, every day! You'd be expected to be a super woman who can handle everything on your own. Being a working mom means you have to work harder for your family and career. But it’s simply not always so easy. Let’s face the fact that there's no such thing as a Super Woman when it comes to work-life balance. It’s up to you to decide that being imperfect is human and it's okay to take a break. Ask for help from others if your feel overwhelmed and you’ll be happily surprised.
The issues mentioned above sounds like a real challenge for a working mom. But working or not working after marriage is only a matter of choice of yours. Always remember that never put a job above your family but at the same time, stay dedicated to your work because it is part of your choice and life. Redefine your success and failure, and make peace with the fact that there will always be others who won't appreciate your life choices.
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